Greet students at the door. Smile and call them by name. Tell them you are glad to see them.
Ask your students to share three things about themselves. Let them choose what they share. Keep them on index cards to help make connections throughout the year.
Know your students families. As important as it is to know the students, make the connection to home. Great relationships with your kids starts where they kick off their day. As the year continues and both the good and bad arise, having that connection will be crucial to getting the results you are seeking.
Journal writing is an activity to get to know your students well and give students a voice in the classroom.
Make positive phone calls home especially within the first two weeks of the school year.
Genius Hour/Passion Projects really give teachers an opportunity to learn about student passions.
Have kids make something that represents them out of Play-dough and share.
In the first couple of days of school, learn the first name of every student in your first class of the day, and something personal and unique about them that has nothing to do with your first class of the day.
Be vulnerable! Let your guard down and show your students that you are a learner, you make mistakes, and persevere. They will see you as a person, opening the door for a relationship built on trust. Share stories about yourself as a learner or challenges you’ve faced when you were there age and help them see what it took to overcome it. It’s easy to forget how much a simple connection can make the difference.
Eat together. Have breakfast with a small group of kids or join them at the lunch table. Gathering around meal time provides an informal way to have conversations and get to know your students.
Hold Monday morning meetings (We call them “Weekend News Updates”). Ask each student to share about their weekend - good or bad. Ask questions. Be sure to share about your weekend too! Occasionally bring in breakfast or make hot chocolate.
Laugh with them. Frequently. Show them that school, and your class, is just not about learning stuff. It is about sharing an experience. Tell them you missed them if they were out.
Keep in touch with past students. Show past students that you do not have a 1 year contract with them. The ongoing relationship will also model to your current students the value of a positive classroom community.
At the elementary level -- hold morning meeting everyday as a class and stick to the routine of greeting, sharing, team building activity, and morning message. This is a sacred time to build and maintain a culture of risk tasking and building relationships.
Send positive postcards home to every child. Have them address it on the first day of the quarter, keep them and challenge yourself to find at least one thing each quarter to celebrate about your students, let them and their parents know.
Find their interests and what motivates them! Sometimes it may take a bit to break down barriers and build trust, but through being genuine and authentic with them this will happen in no time.
Make personal phone calls to parents. Find one good thing to say about the children in your class. It can be how they contributed to a class discussion or how well mannered they are in class or in the halls. For older students it can be how diligent a student is at learning challenging content.
Share something about yourself that they will find relevant or interesting to extend your relationships with students.
Tell a story from a time you were their age. This approach allows students to see teachers as they once were and make connections easier to establish and maintain.
Create a unique handshake or symbol for each of your students. Use it when you greet them at the door or say goodbye.
Eat lunch with a group of kids throughout the week. They will enjoy a time dedicated just to them. (And you will enjoy a peaceful lunch!)
As a school, hold monthly celebrations to recognize students and educators their accomplishments.
Take pictures with students. Print. Write a special note on the back to the student.
At the end of a term or year, write a thank you to students telling them what you have learned from them. Be specific and honest - authenticity goes a long way. Try to make the note handwritten if possible, but email works well too.
Each day write two students a personal note about something that you have noticed about them. Go into some detail and be specific. Keep track of who you reach out to over the year and try and reach as many students as you can. The time you spend doing this will deepen connections and pay off 10 fold.
Have dance parties! It is so fun to let loose and get down with students. Students love seeing you have fun with them, and the saying goes, “The class that dances together, stays together”.
Play with students at recess or during a free time. Climb the monkey bars, play kickball, or tag. Students will never forget you connecting with them on the playground.
Hang out in the hall to give high fives or to have quick conversations with students. Relationship-building can be squeezed into any time of the day.
Notice students having a bad day. Ask questions without prying. Show that you care. Follow up the next day, week, etc.
When a student is having a rough day, ask if he/she has eaten. We are all more unreasonable when we are hungry. Keep a supply of snacks on hand (ex: breakfast bars, crackers, etc).
Go see students at their events: sports, theater, dance, volunteering. Meet parents and families.
When a student stops to say “Hello” and has a friend in tow, introduce yourself and be sure that the guest feels important.
Stop class from time to time with a comment such as, “Hey, everyone, Katie just asked me a great question. I think you’ll all benefit from this. Katie, could you repeat that for everyone?”
Sing “Happy Birthday” to students; send birthday emails (I use “Boomerang” to schedule my birthday emails each month).
Say “I missed you yesterday” when a student has been absent. Be sincere.
We have to make time to grow relationships with our students. This time can not always be in a planner or a calendar. Sometimes, this simply means just being there for your students.
Mail them a postcard for their birthday. They are always amazed to receive personal mail!
In a leadership position, learn as many names as you can. Greet students by their name as often as you are able.
Music! Bond with your students over music. Play soft classical music while they are working. Incorporate music/songs into special events or lessons.
Classroom: Start a compliment jar. Share comments at the end of class or randomly throughout the day. School: Do shout-outs during morning (or afternoon) announcements/news show.
Smile and make eye contact. “Good morning”, “Good afternoon”. Something as simple as a greeting in the hall with smile and eye contact conveys both warmth & safety. Try it tomorrow.
First day of math class have them choose 10 numbers that are significant to them (3 for number of cats, 1 for brothers, 20 for number of hours they work, etc.). Everyone shares out. You will learn lots about all your students in one day.
Cut them some slack every now and then. “What were you doing? What should you have been doing? Can you do that for me next time?” We all make mistakes.
Hold class celebrations and have students develop unique cheers for various accomplishments...these can be anything from a sports team victory, to being selected for something, to earning a grade, and they need not be school related.
Allen Mendler’s 2x10 strategy for challenging students. Spend 2 minutes per day for 10 consecutive days talking to a student about something not academic.
Share your own goals, successes/failures. Don’t be a mystery to your students.
After morning announcements have students participate in a daily discussion question. Have a student read the question and set a timer for two and a half minutes. Each person turns to a partner and answers the question then volunteers share with the whole class. Each question, in some way, will help you get to know your students.
Halfway through the year, have your parents and students fill out a feedback form. In my classroom, these forms look different. Allow them to evaluate you so you can keep what works and change things that aren’t working.
In your summer introduction letter, include a letter asking parents to write about their children in 1,000,000 words or less. Keep the assignment voluntary and open so they tell you what is most important to them.
Don’t be too busy to truly listen. Listen to understand, not to respond. Are you starting a lesson when a student interrupts and tells you they are moving? Take the minute to hear them out. That time will mean more to the student than the first minute of the lesson ever will.
When students get stuck in class, teach the other students to cheer them on. We do a simple, “Come on, [Name], you can do it,” followed by three seconds of clapping.
Teach students call and responses to uplift each other. When a student responds with something profound and someone loves it, that student gets to start the cheer.
When you check in with groups to give them feedback or see how it’s going, make sure you are seeing them eye-to-eye. If they’re sitting, don’t stand. Pull up a chair next to them. If they’re sitting on the floor, sit down on the floor next to them to avoid standing over them.
Give honest feedback even when it may not be positive. Your students will appreciate that you expect more out of them than they’re showing.
Create a “You Matter” wall. Take fun pictures of each of your students. Print each photo and put each student’s photo in an 8x10 frame. Hang them all on your wall under a “You Matter” heading. At the end of the year, send the photos home with students.
Tell them what was hard for you when you went through school and how you worked to overcome the challenges. It shows they aren’t the only ones who struggle.
Defend your students in front of other people.
Take risks so students feel comfortable doing the same. Don’t ask them to do anything you wouldn’t do.
Create something that is unique to your class. For us, it’s a house competition. It’s something that connects my past students and current students. It’s also a family bond that only the students who have been in my class understand.
Apologize when you make a mistake.
Cook together and then you can eat family style in the classroom. Some fun and easy crockpot meals: applesauce, vegetable soup, chicken and dumplings. Then, make cupcakes for dessert!
Every so often, take the pulse of your building according to students. Convene a volunteer roundtable with student reps from various groups (athletes, scholars, quiet, loud) and ask them for critical feedback about topics you are working on. Some ideas I’ve seen discussed in this format include schoolwide incentives (assemblies, sledding event, etc.), dress code, and discussing recess options for winter.
During your informal walk throughs, saddle up right next to students and ask them the purpose of the lesson they are involved in. Why do you think the teacher is asking you to work on this? You’ll be more than surprised with the honest feedback.
Bring board games back! Add a few games like Checkers, Uno or Chess to your lunch table options. See if any students are willing to play a game or two with you and others.
Use sidewalk chalk to decorate the entry of your building with positive messages to students. Have teachers help you write and draw the notes!
Leave nice notes on post-its for students on the outside of their lockers. Recruit other students to help spread the kindness throughout many lockers!
Forgive them when they make mistakes. Remind them that mistakes are opportunities for learning. Don’t hold grudges against misbehavior and don’t allow other adults to hold them either.
Make time for dismissal. Tell them you can’t wait to see them tomorrow and share high fives on the way out!
Notice which students still don’t have money to pay for lunch. Help them out when you can. Treat them to a snack they don’t usually get to purchase at lunch time.
Find special projects that need to be done around school and recruit the most unlikely helpers.
Remind your students you and your staff were all kids once too. Have your team bring in pictures of themselves as children (at the ages you have in your school). Post them and have a contest allowing students to guess which teacher is which. Those 80s pictures are the most popular!
My favorite question to ask my students or any student I come in contact with is what are you into lately? This opens communication with your students and let's them know you are interested.
Allow students to do a job shadow. Give them a peek into what you do and how you make daily decisions.
Host an ice cream social for students that meet certain goals.
As one holiday passes and another is just weeks away, we find ourselves in a state of constantly giving. Regardless of our individual obstacles and the curveballs that life continues to throw us, we are resilient in our desire to be their for others. We give.
2. The Gift of Time. This is the one gift we have each asked for in a variety of situations many times over. In the spirit of giving, find a creative way to offer a colleague this very gift. Covering a class for part of the day is a great way to do this. Find a day that works and take over a lesson during your planning period. Or, if you are an administrator, build this into your week and encourage your colleague to use the time however they would like.
